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10 Red Flags That Indicate You Are Dating a Toxic Person

Ignoring toxic traits won’t save you from getting hurt

Zita Fontaine
9 min readMar 24, 2021
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There are some things that you need to experience yourself to understand fully. You don’t really get heartbreak until your own heart gets broken. You don’t understand the depths of grief until you lose someone close to you. You won’t understand the crippling effects of depression or anxiety until you experience them firsthand. It’s not that you cannot empathise, it’s that fully grasping how it feels and how it changes you requires that you go through all the emotions related to it.

You might never understand why someone gets into or stays in a toxic relationship, but it happens — exactly because it’s not easy to see the toxicity at first. But there are some signs that you should take as red flags, some hints that suggest that you might be dealing with someone toxic. Watching out for red flags at the beginning of a relationship is not paranoid, it’s self-care. No one else will watch out for you, so you need to be aware of your own boundaries and of the qualities of people you let close to you.

So what can signal that you are dating someone toxic?

#1 It feels too good to be true

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Zita Fontaine
Zita Fontaine

Written by Zita Fontaine

Writer. Dreamer. Hopeless romantic. Newsletter: zita.substack.com Email me: zitafontaine (at) gmail

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