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5 Mental Hacks for Easier Weight Loss
Losing 70+ lbs taught me about the power of my mind that will come in handy in other areas too
“You put some weight on, love, didn’t you?” The guy I was seeing last January told me this while holding me in his arms. I suppressed my knee-jerk reaction of pulling away and tell him to piss off, because he said it with a sweet, rather an observational tone and because I knew he was right. I was deeply offended, hurt to my core and I felt that my secret was out and there was no reason to deny it or fight it.
I mumbled something, totally embarrassed and devastated, and it didn’t help that he repeated several times that he found me attractive and sexy and amazing — I didn’t feel attractive, sexy, or worthy, at all. I already felt bad enough about myself, and his comment was the last straw. A wake-up call. An innocent comment that set off an avalanche of events — leading right until today.
I texted my kickboxing coach and close to tears I told him that I needed his help — right now. He had launched a 3-month transformation program as part of his coaching business and I wanted in. We met for a coffee and I told him — as honest as vulnerable as one just can be — that I had had enough, I couldn't carry on like this anymore, and we had to figure out something.
The timing was right, so we decided to start the 3-month journey next Monday. He told me to take ‘before’ pictures, to weigh and measure myself. He told me that it’s not for now, it’s for ‘after’ — to have something to compare the results to. I had quite a few terrible minutes weighing myself, taking pictures, and measuring my dimensions. I kept telling myself that it’s for the best and it can only improve while swallowing back my tears.
I wanted to do this, I wanted to change something, potentially a lot of things, hopefully, everything I ever struggled with. I felt motivated but miserable. And then covid hit and life as we had known it ended in a split second. The shitshow of the lockdown, the homeschooling, the uncertainty would have been too much to take — but thankfully I did not have to give up on the personal training sessions. And I never did. I never missed a session. I never cancelled on him. I started this journey and never looked back.
