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5 Outdated First Date Rules To Ignore (Or At Least Question)
Connection starts with being true to yourself
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, they say. We are learning as we go and we are never prepared for what it might bring.
This is not entirely true. While it’s true that we don’t have a printed manual handed to us, we don’t all have the same experiences or the same temperament to deal with life’s events — there are unwritten rules and beliefs handed over from one generation to the other.
Our parents are trying to teach us about life — based on their own personal experience and based on what they learnt from their parents. Society is telling us how to behave to fit in, it sets the rules and it has its rewards and sanctions. It’s not always straightforward and it doesn’t always apply, but we do receive guidance — based on the averages and best practices.
The problems start when we are not average or we want something radically different from the existing norm. When we are pioneers who leave the already known path and seek new territories to conquer. You would think that being a rebel is out of the norm, but in reality, every new generation changes its behaviour compared to the previous generation.
