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5 Uncomfortable Truths About Boundaries
No matter how healthy it is to have them, it’s not always a walk in the park
Whenever it comes to discussing healthy relationships, healing from trauma or codependency, moving on from a previous people pleaser version of yourself or cutting ties with people, boundaries will be always mentioned. It is crucial to know and assertively communicate what you will and will not tolerate, how you want to be treated and what are your needs.
It has been said so many times that the concept of boundaries has become a cliché, and just as all other clichés, it is easier said than done. Just like the ultimate weight loss tip, eat less and move more, keeping boundaries is a simple idea but it can be extremely difficult to actually practice it.
More so, you can read and hear a lot about how having healthy boundaries will improve your life, your relationships and in the long run your overall well-being — but it is rarely mentioned what downsides you will encounter once you start to build and keep them.
I started to be mindful of my boundaries quite recently, as I had noticed similar patterns in my relationships, in my attachments, even in my friendships and work connections.
