6 Terrible Traits Of Highly Self-Toxic People

Sometimes we are our own biggest enemy

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Not everyone is toxic but anyone can be toxic for you. Including you.

I spent my last few years trying to figure out the reasons for my terrible past relationship. And the more I looked, the more reasons came up — first, explaining his behaviour became my obsession then trying to understand my part in it became my source of guilt and shame.

I read millions of words about narcissism and abuse, unhealthy relationships, toxic dynamics and basic human needs. The further I got from the abuse in time and distance, the clearer the picture became. The seemingly incomprehensible actions started to make sense, and even if it hurt to discover new layers, it was part of my healing journey.

I was a victim of abuse and initially, I blamed myself for it. With time I managed to distance myself from the blame completely. I refused to accept that it was my fault and I knew I didn’t deserve it. It was an important part of rediscovering my agency. But it wasn’t entirely true.

I still believe that I never deserved any of it and that his behaviour wasn’t my fault, but nothing is black and white and I had to find the truth somewhere hidden in the shades in between the truth I…