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8 Red Flags That Suggest You’re Dating a Misogynist
Patriarchy is alive and kicking, and sometimes it hides lovingly in plain sight
I had my fair share of abuse, hurt and pain in my last long-term relationship. To be honest, it was more than enough for a lifetime. I made out of it, I wrote a book about it, I have been healing from it during these past years. It taught me a great deal about life, love, relationships and myself. It taught me about boundaries and co-dependency. It taught me about unhealthy relationship dynamics. And it taught me about misogyny as well.
The core problem in the relationship was that my ex hated all women, and at times he had no qualms about expressing this hatred openly. Other times he denied it and tried to act respectful and caring.
It wasn’t our only problem, but it was a huge contribution — one I did not see at first because as I learnt it later, misogyny is not always obvious. It doesn’t mean that you are always disrespected or abused, it doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is trolling others in incel forums, it doesn’t always mean battered wives.
Misogyny is a lot more subtle than that and in some cases, not even the misogynist realises that their problems are rooted in deep beliefs that despise women. We usually attribute misogyny to men, but…
