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8 Things You Should Stop Apologising For in 2021
A new year resolution to become your most unapologetic self
A lot of people don’t understand apologies.
There are some who don’t understand that it doesn’t mean to surrender to the other, it doesn’t mean losing an argument, it doesn’t mean that one is weak. And for this, they are incapable of apologising — even when they are clearly wrong and their egos are already hurting their relationships.
There are some who think of apologies as solutions and who believe that murmuring sorry will bring immediate forgiveness — without actual changes.
And there are some who truly believe in apologies to an unhealthy extent. Who genuinely think that a sorry needs to be real — all the time. Who overthink situations and if they find they might have wronged someone even accidentally then they owe them a heartfelt, profound apology. Repeatedly. And then they apologise for always apologising.
This last one used to be me. And it was pathetic and ridiculous. I was pathetic and often ridiculous. I used to apologise for everything I did or didn’t do, everything that others did to me, everything that happened to anyone around me — as if it was within my control or influence.
