A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk

Or how to use the power of words in the bedroom

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I am a talker, big time! Really. It’s a miracle if I don’t talk — or so I was told. Regardless of the language or the situation, I talk if I feel the urge to say what I feel, why I feel it, to explain my reasons behind. It works really well in business and intellectual conversations. But when it came to sex, I had never been much of a talker before. My usually chatty self just disappeared when the lights went out and it was sex time… hmmm, I couldn’t really imagine talking about any of it.

I used to believe in moans and non-verbal communication — and it worked out fine and I didn’t know better.

When I met my then-boyfriend and we had sex for the first time, I was so nervous, I couldn’t stop talking — I wasn’t sexy-talking, I just blabbered about how ticklish I am, how awkward I feel, how happy I am that he’s here and so on. He put up with it for quite a while, we didn’t know each other too well at that point. But after some time he stopped kissing me and made a gentle comment about me never shutting up. It made me feel awkward and he didn’t want that. So to turn it around, he suggested that instead of rambling I should tell him how I feel as he was kissing various parts of my body. We made a feeling-description-game of what he was doing to me and he kept…