Beat Jealousy By Resolving Compatibility Issues

Jealousy is not a character flaw. It’s a relationship issue.

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I have never been jealous, but I was sad about being betrayed.

I was sad when the one I trusted didn’t live up to my expectations. I was sad when I saw that I wasn’t important enough to be the first choice. I was sad when my love wasn’t enough to keep our connection alive. But I wasn’t jealous.

According to the definition, romantic jealousy is being upset and angry because someone that you love seems interested in another person.

In my book, jealousy is a tell-tale sign of lacking compatibility within a relationship.

There are only two causes to jealousy:

1. your partner shows interest in someone else (reality)
2. or you think that they do (perception).

In either case, jealousy is a compatibility problem.

I have a friend, a very attractive woman, always surrounded by admirers wherever she goes. She is funny, charming and disarmingly beautiful. And she is fiercely loyal in general. I saw her losing relationships because her former partners couldn’t believe that she was never reciprocating the advances shown towards her. She used to be accused of being too friendly with…