Don’t Suppress Your Anger, Manage It

Not getting angry is just as detrimental as getting angry

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When you think about someone who needs anger management, red face, tense shoulders, clenched jaw, balled fists, yelling and aggression will usually come to mind first. By definition, the goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes.

Googling the term will give 197 million results, from explaining the physiological and psychological factors of it, through the health benefits of managing one’s temper, to quick tips and therapy suggestions to deal with it.

Anger as a feeling is neither good nor bad.

Like every other emotion, it’s conveying a message, telling you something about the actual situation and about your relation to it. It’s perfectly normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. Anger becomes a problem only when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.

But what if you are overmanaging your anger? What if the problem is the exact opposite? What if you are that kind of person, who never gets angry?