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Healing, Finally: My Journey Beyond Trauma and Self-Doubt
After years of pain, I finally found freedom — and the lessons I wish I’d known sooner
When I first started writing on Medium, I wrote a lot about narcissistic behaviour and abusive relationships — what it means to be in one, how to recognise it, and how to heal afterwards. Writing about my experiences, researching, and analyzing the topic served multiple purposes in my life at the time. I was getting to understand the dynamics, healing my wounds, and sharing a personal story to help others relate. I had some initial writing success, met like-minded people, and joined the writing community, which was incredible, and I loved every minute of it. It worked well, and I was glad to have found something good from an otherwise terrible experience.
Later, I revisited the topic; I even wrote a book during the pandemic, which I published. Finally, I could call myself a published author. I thought it would help me feel like a real writer after so many years of struggling with imposter syndrome and inadequacy — and for some time it worked.
Then, over a few years, I started noticing that the articles I wrote about my traumatic experience did more harm than good. They were still well-received, and there were, sadly, still many people who related to…
