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Healing From Codependency Is Harder Than It Seems
When all you’ve ever known is unhealthy, healthy seems out of reach
“Truth, truth. Like a blanket that always leaves your feet cold. You push it, stretch it, but it’ll never be enough. You kick at it, beat it, it’ll never cover any of us. From the moment we enter crying, to the moment we leave dying, it’ll just cover your face, as you wail and cry and scream.”
Truth can be the ugliest and most distorted mirror that you ever need to face. It shows you a reality that you might not like, and it can show you parts of yourself that you wanted to deny so long that lies seem more plausible than mustering up enough courage to see yourself for who you are.
I believe that facing reality and looking it right in the face can be a liberating exercise, but sometimes the wounds we have are so deeply rooted in our existence, the discomfort is so familiar that unearthing it is more painful than useful. I believe that our life is constant progress with ups and downs, with new revelations and discoveries about ourselves, a neverending journey of figuring out who we are, what we stand for and where we are heading. And it involves getting hurt and getting healed.
In my healing process from a traumatic relationship that I recognized to be unhealthy, one of the…
