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How to Have Good Sex
No, it’s not about trying out the whole Kama Sutra
Sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. — Mel Brooks
The good thing about ageing, when it comes to sex, is that you already know the difference between good and bad. When you are still in your twenties, sex is about learning everything about it, learning a lot about your own body, about your reaction, about the other’s body, about positions and tricks. It is a whole lot of experimenting, always looking for something new, or even someone new.
With a few decades of experience behind you, just as with every other thing, it starts to become a different sensation. If you consider sex as a way of personal growth, knowing yourself better, defining your boundaries and pushing your limits on your own terms — it becomes different. It begins to be more about quality than quantity, more about intimacy and pleasure than experiments.
Experience doesn’t come from a huge number of sexual partners, it can come from spending a lot of intimate time with one single person. It can come from good moments just as well as from bad moments — all of what you live through shapes you and teaches you.
I learnt the most about sex from someone who turned out to be quite a bad…
