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How to Make the Most of Rejection
Turn a devastating experience into something positive
One of the phrases I hate most in this world that is hooked on overly positive messages is that everything happens for a reason. Because it’s just bullshit. Not everything happens for a reason. There are bad things happening to good people. There are terrible personal losses, unfortunate job losses, devastating heartbreaks — just to name a few common ones without mentioning the pandemic or the war in Ukraine — that don’t happen for a reason, and that don’t depend on your vibration and often have nothing to do with you as a person or the choices you made.
There are things we don’t deserve and we still face them. One of the most ordinary devastating experiences that happens to all of us is to be rejected. Not getting an invitation to a classmate’s birthday party, not getting the job that we applied for, not even getting a response for our book pitch, getting our business idea dismissed, being ghosted or dumped by someone who matters to us.
Rejection sucks. It hurts like hell.
Trying to put a positive spin on it, trying to explain why it happened for a reason can be extremely difficult. Rejection of any sort activates the same areas in the brain as physical pain — so it’s literally painful. Saying that it happened for a…
