I Got Ghosted Again and This Time It Broke My Stupid Heart

Why is it so difficult to deal with ghosting

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A few years ago, I came out of an abusive relationship and I was going through hell after the breakup. It was after years of physical, verbal and emotional abuse, and I was at rock bottom. It was obvious that I would suffer from it, that I was going to be down for a long time and that I will have to do a lot of work to heal and bounce back. And I did. It took me a long time, I would say that it took longer than I imagined. But looking back, even if it wasn’t a smooth ride, I was getting better day after day, slowly putting myself back together. I got stronger, I set boundaries, I set higher standards, I got to know myself — and if you can say it, it was a win after all. It didn’t happen for a reason, I didn’t attract it, and didn’t deserve it, but eventually, I managed to turn it around and learn from it.

And then I started to date again, in the hope of finding someone to be in a relationship with. I wasn’t ready for it. I didn’t know how hard it would be. Not just the dating part, not just taking the courage to put me out there again, not to endure the boring conversations on the dating apps or the meh dates with some. I wasn’t ready emotionally. I didn’t know I was going to face mini-heartbreaks, disappointments and hurt from literal strangers…