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If You Don’t Believe in You, No One Will
How to master positive self-bias
One thing I learnt as a life coach working with a variety of clients — from mid-level managers to stay-at-home mums — is that the biggest thing I could give them was to believe in them.
It didn’t matter if I knew anything about their lives or hardships. It didn’t matter if I could relate, or I was just listening. The feedback I received after the coaching period, having accomplished their goals, was always the same:
“I could only do it because you made me believe that I can.”
It wasn’t me achieving their goals — it was them. My role was simple — I had to makes sure they know that I believe in them, even more than they have ever believed in themselves.
No journey is easy. And it is even more difficult if you set yourself up for growth. Growing is painful. We get discouraged. We have to face rejection. We need to push through thick and thin.
And no matter how many fans you have, there are times, when you have to do it all by yourself.
You need the mental strength and the certainty that you are capable of it — you need to be your own biggest fan. Because if you don’t believe in yourself, how could anyone else believe in you?
