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I’m Emotionally Ready to Try Polyamory
But the emotional aspect is easier to manage than the rest
A few weeks ago I was talking to a guy I am casually seeing and in the middle of the conversation I got uncertain whether I already talked to him about a certain topic. I asked him if I had already told him — as I didn’t want to repeat it if I had.
He mockingly told me: “That must have been your other boyfriend…”
I frowned and almost snorted. Hah. I don’t have another boyfriend. Hell, I didn’t even know he considered himself to be one.
It was funny and unsettling at once — but my genuine surprise convinced him that he didn’t need to worry about his territory being invaded.
It’s true. At the moment I am not seeing anyone else. But I don’t consider us more than just a series of casual encounters. It is not entirely about sex, but in my mind, it doesn’t fit the criteria of a relationship.
He cares about me, but it’s fine if we don’t talk for a couple of weeks. He is always enthusiastic to see me and talk to me but we don’t crave each others’ presence.
I care about him, but I don’t have feelings for him. I don’t think about him, I don’t worry if he doesn’t call, I don’t get upset if he cancels on me due to some other obligation.
