I’m Not Ready for a Relationship — at Least Not With You

The truth behind the most evasive dating line

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I’m not sure if it speaks volumes about my low self-esteem, my bad perspective on life or it describes my reality, but I have always thought that I was quite the unlucky one when it comes to romantic relationships. I have been dumped and ghosted, mocked and ridiculed, left without a word by people who I thought would stay in my life forever.

And while I don’t want to undo every break-up, I wouldn’t want to escape from the learnings of heartbreak, I tended to feel that I am always the one worth leaving.

Until recently…

I don’t know if I grew up or managed to obtain a more mature and more objective view on life, but I start to think that I am not always the one who is dumped or ghosted, I am doing it just as much — only I don’t realize how many opportunities end because of me.

I have heard the phrase “I am not ready for a relationship” only too many times, enough to fill a couple of books with desperate or hilarious love stories. All my dating fiascos, my terrible online dating experiences, my stories about ridiculous opening lines are sort of just dispersing into the mass of the people I ghosted, I dumped and I left on “read” forever.