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Love Bombing is Not Real Love
If it seems too good to be true, you might be a victim of a narcissist
If you have ever signed up for dating apps, you will know this: so many things can be disappointing — even before meeting in real life. The boring conversation starter, the meh response time, the lack of pushing for a date or a too quick pushing for nudes. And don’t get me started on spelling, wah! It can go wrong on so many levels that when you bump into someone who actually seems to be okay, it is hard to make yourself looking for red flags.
After all, you deserve someone who knows the right answers and who wants to get to know you, who doesn’t leave you on ‘read’ and who actually wants to meet you, not just text you endlessly.
When we matched on a dating app and in no time, we were chatting, he was charming and funny; he knew the right answers to everything. It was obvious that he’s not a dummy dater. He used finely crafted pickup lines, spiced with morsels of information he had taken from my profile and from what he learnt from our short conversation. He was paying attention. Big time. And I was bathing in it.
It was refreshing to chat with someone who controlled the situation, who knew what he wanted. He was straightforward and subtle at once. An expert. I should have taken it as a red flag, but…
