My Therapist Told Me She Can’t Help Me

But I still need someone to help

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In the past three years, since I got out from the relationship with my abusive ex, I did everything humanly possible to set out on the path of healing. And when I say everything, I mean everything. From silk mandala painting, playing the piano, running, yoga, family constellation session, medication to therapy with three different therapists.

One was a regular psychologist, the other one was specialised in abused women and the third one was a sexual-therapist.

There was one thing common with the three of them: after a few sessions, they told me that they can’t help me any more than I can help myself.

I was dismissed.

They told me that they are willing to continue the therapy but they have to tell me that it’s my money and they don’t feel that they can contribute to my healing.

I was baffled. Disappointed. Let down.

But if a therapist says that they don’t feel they are helping, how should I continue seeing them — the damage is done.

It’s not that I didn’t agree. I fully agreed that they didn’t have any better questions than those I asked myself. They didn’t have better affirmations. They didn’t help me connect any dots that I hadn’t…