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Relationships Only Work if The Man is the More Interested of the Two
Allow me to spread a potentially unpopular opinion
If you want to get successful at business, look at those who already nailed it, watch, and learn their strategies and habits and attitude. If you want to get good at running, take advice from runners who have already gone through it all. There are great lessons in someone else’s success, and even if not all of them can be applied to your life, the main points will be something to learn from.
Similarly, when it comes to relationships, we can learn a lot from those around us who made it. Those friends who are still together after everyone else already divorced, those that managed to keep the fire, those who still talk kindly to each other even after an argument.
There are only a few basic notions that need to click in a relationship, the rest is commitment and hard work from both parties.
But there is one more thing I noticed, observing the well-functioning couples around me — in my family, among my friends. Although the sample I am looking at is far from complete, what I observed is that in each (cishet) relationship that is successful and has the potential to last forever, it’s always the man who is more interested. It’s not that the women aren’t, they are too, but…
