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Searching for a Relationship, I Lost Sight of the Things that Make Me Happy
Don’t make the same mistake
There are people who are really great at being single. They shine, they thrive, they find themselves and they improve further. They feel comfortable with their own company, without the burning need to share it with that one significant other. They usually have a big circle of friends, and amazing social life and they have the tools to cope with the occasional mental health challenges they face.
I envy them… because this is not me. Or at least I told myself that this wasn’t me. If you keep telling yourself long enough how miserable you are, you will feel miserable. If you repeat to yourself and to everyone who listens that you hate being single, then you will feel compelled to hate every minute of it — even those times when you feel good and happy. If you want to, you can convince yourself that singlehood is not for you, and in the process, you will make it impossible to appreciate it for yourself.
We are extremely powerful — I strongly believe that. Not in a superhero way, but in the sense that with our thoughts, feelings and beliefs we are creating our own reality. We can make ourselves miserable in average circumstances and we can make ourselves happy in even the most desperate situations. We can get stuck in…
