The Dark Side of a Weight Loss Success Story

It’s so much harder to speak about the failures than the success

Zita Fontaine


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Who doesn’t love a great success story? Who doesn’t like to read about the tips and tricks to succeed, be it about business, writing, relationships or weight loss? Who doesn’t want to know what the shortcuts are — even when we are fully aware that usually there are no shortcuts?

It is easy to write about success. A lot easier than to get there. A lot easier than going through all the difficult steps along the way. It’s great to write about it and great to read about it. It’s promising and hopeful, and if the story is honest and vulnerable enough, it is easy to relate to it.

People love success stories — they like to know about a good struggle if it has a happy ending. This is what we want to relate to. The struggling protagonist who finally makes it — no matter how difficult the path is, we need the promise that it’s possible.

It’s challenging to write about failure. It’s difficult to write about the dark side. The parts that are depressing and ugly. The parts that don’t lead anywhere.

If you succeed, you are great. You achieved it, you have extraordinary willpower, you persisted and grit your teeth and look — it’s all yours now.

If you fail, you freefall from the pedestal you put yourself onto. If you fail, you are a failure. If you fail, it means that there is something wrong — you are doing something wrong, or you are too impatient, or you are incapable.

Two and a half years ago, I started an incredible weight loss journey — that didn’t look like a success story for a very long time. Months and months went by, and I was down only a few pounds, despite the exercise and the diet. Despite all my efforts, it didn’t go anywhere. I struggled and suffered and persisted. And 4 months later, I started to see the results. 18 months later I lost almost 80 pounds, and boy, I was proud of myself.

I would say that this was when my failure story started.

Right where the success story ended, I started to fail.

So let me tell you about all the dark points of having succeeded — and then…



Zita Fontaine

Writer. Dreamer. Hopeless romantic. Newsletter: Email me: zitafontaine (at) gmail