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The Flawed Dynamics of a Narcissistic Relationship
The fatal cycle of Love Bombing, Devalue, Discard and Hoover
Every relationship type has certain dynamics to it — and they evolve with the relationship. Some evolve organically, some need external help and a lot of self-reflection. There are ups and downs, there are phases, there are periods that are better than others. A genuine relationship is built on intimacy, commitment, trust, consistency, progression, shared values, love and care. It is built on a promise that the partners watch out for each other, support each other and they do it in a predictable and reliable way.
It’s only natural to grow apart or grow closer, to develop shared interests or part ways if the level of compatibility is not sufficient enough to maintain. But when it comes to a relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, the patterns are predictable — but not in a good way. The biggest problem is that when we enter such a relationship, we have no idea what it would evolve into.
We are not meant to be alone and self-sufficient. Us, human beings are wired to be in company, genetically coded to be accepted and appreciated by others. Back in the days, our survival depended on it. Only those who were part of the tribe — then later the community and society, — survived…
