The Power of Fear: How to Turn Self-Sabotage into Self-Discovery

Learn how to recognize and overcome your fears, and turn self-sabotage into a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation.

Zita Fontaine

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I have stopped writing and expressing myself for quite some time now, and I was coming up with all sorts of excuses about it. How nobody is even interested, how nobody cares, how I don’t have time for it, and I have better things to do.

I was fully aware that it is procrastination at best and self-sabotage at worst, but I can be so convincing to myself that I always managed to talk myself out of restarting it. Coming up with excuses outweighed the obvious benefits of writing, so I just gave in, silently fuming at myself, accusing myself of being lazy and eventually blaming it on my lack of talent.

This got to the point that I even stopped reading other people’s work, because either it was poor quality. It was a distorted mirror, proving to me that even those who can’t, will still do it just because they believe in themselves more than I do in myself, or it was just so great that I decided not to put myself out there to be compared to them and fail miserably.

The reality is that I am not as bad as I think I am, but I am not as consistent and persistent as I would like to be. And it comes down to self-sabotage — clear as day.

I was asked to edit someone’s blog post about a half-professional, half-personal topic at the company I am working for, and as I was going through it, first just correcting some typos and basic mistakes, I got caught up in it, and my inner editor kicked in. I ended up editing their piece, and I made it so much better. I managed to keep their style, but I also took care of it that it read easily, that it has a rhythm, that there is a perfect balance of longer and shorter sentences, a perfect equilibrium of sounding personal but keeping the professional topic authentic. And I enjoyed it. I loved every second of it, and all of a sudden, a chore at work became something I really liked to do.

When I sent it back to the author, a little apologetic that I took the liberty to rewrite their work, the guy said he loved it. He said it sounded exactly like him, and…

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Zita Fontaine

Writer. Dreamer. Hopeless romantic. Newsletter: zita.substack.com Email me: zitafontaine (at) gmail