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To All The Boys We’ve Ghosted Before
A collection of female confessions about ghosting
It’s not you, it’s me.
Such an overused and petty excuse for taking the blame and still not saying anything substantial. The real reasons for breaking off a relationship or ending what has barely started stay hidden, leaving the others wondering, overthinking and torturing themselves.
Sometimes the reasons are so trite that they can’t be said. Sometimes it feels that repeating the same thing like a broken record is sucking the air out of us. Sometimes it’s really not you, it’s us. But sometimes it’s you — but you don’t see it.
Ghosting is abruptly walking away from a relationship, stopping all contact and communication with a partner or potential partner without any warning, ignoring the other’s attempts to communicate.
Being abandoned is hard. It makes you feel dismissed and thrown away, sometimes even used. It makes you question your worth. It might lead to low self-worth, anxiety, depression, self-blame. When you get closure, no matter how painful, you can learn from it and you can move on quicker. Without closure or explanation, it is hard to find solid ground, and regardless of how easy it might have been to walk away for the ghoster, it can leave the other crippled for an…
